Should a funny speaker try to be funny at his daughter’s wedding? Probably not.
There are many “moments” for a parent. Holding your baby for the first time is a big one and certainly better than changing that first dirty diaper. Watching them head to their first day of school is near the top and definitely exceeds discovering they’ve written on their baby sister with a Sharpie. But from experience I can say, nothing really matches giving your daughter away at a wedding. Thinking about that walk down the aisle still gives me goose bumps.
Let me begin by saying that for a guy who makes a living making light of everything, a wedding can be an incongruous setting. This might be the time to take off the “funny speaker” hat. But I still try. “So if you think a marriage is a 50-50 proposition you either don’t understand women or you don’t understand fractions? Ha! Here’s another one you won’t like. A perfect wife is one who helps the husband with the dishes. Ha! I’m killin’ here.” Those jokes don’t even have a 30 second shelf life. And eventually you run out of material. Ahem, appropriate material. In short, weddings are not the first choice for a stand-up routine.
As we all know, the wedding is mainly for the bride. The groom almost doesn’t matter. Think about it. The bride is clearly in charge. The bride has sole veto power on everything, which is why you never see a wedding at the halftime of a football game or in a sports bar. The attire IS the bride. You always hear, “what a beautiful dress” but never “I love your tie”. The dress is a huge deal involving shopping, fittings, alterations, a team of consultants, a bevy of friends, and a big bank account. The groom is told to just go rent something that matches, the first metaphor in the marriage that means “don’t clash with me”. The groom and groomsmen basically sneak into the ceremony from a back door or enter without any music, while the bride enters to a processional and fanfare that requires everyone to jump to their feet. It’s HER bouquet that gets tossed. It’s HER garter that gets thrown. It’s HER dollar dance. It’s all about HER….
at least that’s what I thought.
When a father walks his daughter down the aisle, the realization hits that Daddy wouldn’t want it any other way. The wedding’s not just for the bride, as much as anyone it’s for the father. I’m just sayin’.
Mark Mayfield, A Funny Speaker with a Serious Message